Marriage as Ministry: Preparing My Heart for God's Chosen One

I have never been in love.

That choice was intentional, not because I lacked a desire for connection, but because I believed in waiting for something truly God-ordained, rather than just emotionally stirring. I have observed many enter relationships driven by desire without discernment, and I made a promise to myself that I would not give my heart to anyone who was not sent by God.

Now, in this season of my life, my heart has shifted not out of fear or haste, but in faith.

I have come to understand that marriage is more than a mere milestone; it is a ministry, a covenant, a divine assignment crafted by God Himself. I believe there is a man out there who is also waiting, perhaps even praying, for a woman like me.

A strong man in search of rest.  

A faithful man longing for a partner in purpose.  

A man who may currently walk alone, yet was never meant to complete this journey without support.  

I am created to be that support, not to fix or complete, but to stand alongside him as a helper suitable, as described in Genesis 2:18.

While I do not plan on having children, I understand the profound significance of creating a home, a sanctuary of peace, respect, unconditional love, and unwavering support. That is my ministry. That is my calling.

As I open my heart to this new season, I have been seeking the Lord's guidance on the qualities that truly matter in a husband. Not merely a list of desires, but traits that align with purpose, foster peace, and embody godly leadership.

5 Prayerful Questions: What I Am Believing God For in a Husband

1. Has he fully submitted to Christ?  

I am not searching for a perfect man; I am praying for a man who recognizes the voice of God and allows Him to guide his steps. If he is following Christ, I can follow him without fear.

2. Does he view our marriage as a divine calling rather than mere companionship?

I desire a husband who understands that marriage is about more than just being together; it is about growing in faith for God’s glory, not just our own comfort.

3. Can he foster peace in our home and lead with spiritual authority?  

I want a husband who prays, protects the atmosphere of our household, and recognizes that cultivating peace is part of his spiritual responsibility.

4. Is he content with a marriage that may not include children, and can he embrace our union as complete in Christ?

I believe that our legacy does not have to be biological; it can be spiritual, emotional, and eternal. I seek a man who appreciates the fullness of our calling as a couple, even without parenting.

5. Will he accept my love, respect, and support without needing to be rescued or changed?

I am not entering marriage to fix a man; I aim to walk alongside one. I want a husband who is whole in Christ, aware of his imperfections, and open to mutual growth through grace.

Trusting God’s Timing

This season is not about rushing into love; it is about preparing for a covenant.

I have prayed. I have fasted. I have waited.

But most importantly, I have allowed God to prepare my heart not just for a man, but for the ministry of marriage.

A Prayer for My Future Husband

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the quiet seasons that have refined me, and the waiting that has not weakened me, but prepared me. I trust that you are writing a love story far greater than I could ever imagine, one rooted in covenant, not convenience.

Wherever he is right now, I lift him to You. Strengthen him. Cover him. Remind him that he is not alone. Prepare his heart to love me with the same patience, grace, and faithfulness You have shown us both.

May our union bring You glory. May our home reflect Your peace. May our love be a ministry that points others back to You.

If it is Your will for us to raise children together, let our parenting be purposeful and Spirit-led. And if you call us to walk together without children, let our legacy still be rich and eternal.

Until we meet (maybe again), continue to shape me into the woman he is praying for and, more importantly, into the woman you have called me to be.

In Jesus' name,

Amen.

I am hidden in God and in His perfect timing, love will find me where purpose has already positioned me. I am confident that what God has for me, no one can delay, deny, or destroy.